Paying people without money

How do you pay people without money?

I believe it starts with the small things. It could be complimenting them on what they’re wearing. It could include noticing something small, like a different hair style or a new pair of shoes. It could also be noticing how they have started to show progress when losing weight, because you listened when they said they’re starting to hit the gym again. 

Personally, paying people without money mainly consists of giving people something for being another player in this game called life. So many others out there are looking to take something away, whether it be talking behind others backs, stealing, lying, leaving people out, etc. 

We all have a decision to make each day- to be positive or negative, helpful or tear people down. So, choose wisely 🙂

Real love

Just from the title, I’m sure some people automatically starting singing the popular song from Mary J. Blige. Even though that was my jam, this is different.  

My question is,  do you think it is possible to love someone without liking them?

What did you want to be when you grew up?

So, I posed a question on my Facebook wall yesterday and received a lot of responses! The question was, as a child, what did you want to be when you grew up?

I got a host of answers from: veterinarian, private investigator, singer and the list goes on. But, now my question is how do you feel about where you’ve ended up years later?

Some people now work in retail, the food industry, communications, and some may not be employed at all and others are full time parents. But, for those who feel like it’s not too late to reach for your goals, what’s stopping you from getting that nursing degree, or the Masters, or the cosmetology certificate? 

Go for it! Life is too short to end it in regret. Don’t talk yourself out of your goals because you think you’re too old to reach them. 

Do what you would tell others. Go for it while there’s nothing stopping you but yourself. 

The world changing fast

I just got an interesting email from a former AT&T project manager who worked in the industry for 41 years who said by 2020, the economy as we know it will be completely different. 

I just watched a video where an architect in China made a 6-story building out of a 3D printer. 

Check this out:

The auto industry is changing fast also. Companies like Diamler- the company that owns Mercedes-Benz and Chrysler and others, are saying tech companies are their biggest fear, not BMW and Audi. 

Companies like Apple, Google, Tesla and others are changing the game and are designing computers on wheels. 

Technology is catapulting at light speeds. I can only imagine what types of things our children will be doing in the future.

Unique blogger award

First of all,

I would like to thank Sylvia for nominating me for this award. I truly appreciate it. I haven’t really been keeping a solid schedule with this whole blogging thing like I intended. But, I think that speaking from the heart when it comes is far more impactful.

Anyway, to answer the questions given to me in response to the nomination.

  1. What makes you proud?
    1. Something that makes me proud is knowing who I am, even when no one is watching and not feeling like showing off for anyone. I also appreciate the gifts and talents I am blessed to share with others, and the love I don’t deserve to get from my friends and especially my family.
  2. When was the last time you had a good laugh– you know, one of those that come from deep in the belly and makes your sides hurt? Could you share the moment with us?
    1. Yes, the last time I had a good heartfelt belly laugh was when my father-in-law and I experienced the double doozie in Atlanta during my wife’s nephew’s graduation. Please read my post on that to fully understand the entirety of that situation.
  3. What one thing have you not done that you REALLY want to do?
    1. The one thing that I haven’t done that I really want to do is travel. I want to travel and experience life because we only get one of them and we never know how long it will last. In the words of Petey Pablo, “We ain’t promised tomorrow. Shoot, we might lose this thing tonight!”

To read the original post, click here:

Here are the people I have nominated for the Unique Blogger Award:

1. beautybeyondbones

2. ropheka


4. The Daily Post

5. The purple kid

6. Lordofthetrekkies

7. AYR- A young retirement

8. bijoucaillouvintage

9. black perfectionist

10. David Oakes-images

11. Dream in photos

12. Start you wealth now


14. Katherine Mai

15. Morgenspaziergang

The questions for my nominees are:

  1. What is your version of successful?
  2.  What is your worst pet peeve?
  3. What is the one thing you wish you could’ve done over in your life?



  • Share the link to the blogger who has shown love to you by nominating you.
  • Answer the questions.
  • In the spirit of sharing love and solidarity with our blogging family, nominate 15 people and notify them.
  • Ask them three questions.

The double doozie!

So, a few months ago, my family and I traveled to Atlanta, Ga to celebrate my wife’s nephew’s High School graduation. As we were waiting for the graduation to start, we decided to go get some sweets and refreshments.

Little did I know, this was the wrong move!

So, we hiked up what seemed like 12 flights of stairs in the arena where the graduation was held, and finally reached the top. Being in shape wouldn’t have prepared me for that excursion, but that was the least of my worries.

After reaching the summit, we peered out at the vendors to see what our “options” were. Keep in mind, we knew we were in an arena and had virtually nowhere to go. Unfortunately, the vendors knew this also.

So, we approached a stand with cookies and bottled waters, and I placed my order. “Can I have 4 bottles of water and this double doozie?

Let me explain what a double doozie is for those of you who do not have the privilege of knowing. It’s two decent-sized cookies with creme in the middle connecting the two.

The picture explains it all.

The picture does it justice. Anyway…

So, the guy then responds and gives me my total…”That’ll be $21.” I paused, then looked behind me because I knew he wasn’t talking to me when he said $21 for 4 bottles waters and a cookie sandwich. But, I asked anyway. “Sir, did you say $21???” He didnt even break a smile.

“Yes sir. That will be $21.” Dumbfounded, I had to ask again, just to make sure I was awake. He responded without hesitation. “$21.” And he was so polite, so I couldn’t get mad.

My father in law, who was with me at the time chuckled at my reaction. He was from South Florida, where these kind of prices were commonplace. But, I knew how much a case of Aquafina was. Let alone one bottle!

But, after my third time asking, even my ever-patient father in law started to question the cost. He paused and thought aloud. “If these bottles of waters are $4 a piece, that means that cookie is $5 by itself. Then, without fail, the cashier steps in closer, as if he was telling us a secret and clarifies…”but it’s a double doozie.”

My father in law and I both cracked up laughing, paid the man his $9,682 and got back to our seats as fast as we could.

After that ceremony, I vowed to never leave the house without a cooler of bottled water and goodies again.

Silent battles 

Sometimes I find it ironic that with over 7 billion people on the planet, so many people say they feel alone.

What’s even more interesting is that some of the most seemingly outgoing and positive people are the most depressed and lonely. 

My prayer is that more people, myself included, stop and pay more attention as we rush through our daily routines. Also, I urge those dealing with issues to speak up and talk about their issues and find others to work those problems out with, not just to feel sorry for each other. 

We are to love one another as Christ loves his church.

One love and God bless.